As a teenage girl in modern society there is so many pressures. To be cool, to be pretty, to be normal, to excel academically, to be on trend, to be rich, to be funny, to thin, to be normal - that i think we often lose touch of what is most important. To be all of these things would be a betrayal to yourself, being all of these thing wont make you popular or a better person and they certainly wont make you happy. Happiness comes from freedom, from excitement, from spontaneity, from being a little bit different, from laughing all day, to going for an ice-cream straight after a huge lunch or running around in some dorky clothes because you really do not care. A happy girl is a beautiful one.
Make-up will not make you happy, being size zero certainly won't. Wearing the same clothes as everyone else, liking the same bands wont. Studying extra math to please your parents and teachers even though you despise it and would rather be doing art wont make you happy. Not having a slice of cake when you so desperately long for the creaminess of the butter cream, simply because the girls at school say its important to watch your weight won't make you happy. Dieting wont make you perfect. Nor will it impress him. A hilarious joke or quirky fashion sense with a sparkle in your eye will. Wearing the wrong shirt, not liking the same shops isn't a reason to drag a blade across your skin as punishment, it is a reason to embrace your differences.
Dancing round the room crazily to a silly song, licking the bowl of cake mixture when baking, rolling around on the grass in an old sweater and silly shorts, having the odd hair out of place, a few freckles, a curve instead of a concave, the odd scar or two of what you've overcome is the strength and happiness that defines beauty. To be able to stand up proudly, dust yourself off, survive a hilarious trip in the corridor at school and still be able to shout i am who i am whilst dancing around the room to 'girls just want to have fun' is real happiness.
The scars you hide beneath are nothing to be ashamed of, they are the struggles you've overcome, or the suffering you may be going through. It makes you no less beautiful, quit conforming. No amount of 'ordinary' will make you happy. Its too boring
I've been reading your blog and had a look on your instagram and I'm actually quite offended by some of the things you say. You've written something similar to this on an instargam photo about thigh gaps, saying they're not natural etc. I am naturally quite petite and my legs are very thin, this doesn't mean that I'm unhealthy because I'm not. I eat totally healthily and it's just my natural size, I have a thigh gap naturally so I guess some people just do, there's nothing wrong with it. I totally understand why you say it, because a lot of girls do aspire to be extremely thin and have thigh gaps or whatever and admittedly for some people it really isn't natural and therefore they shouldn't aspire for this but I just wanted to point out that for some people, like myself who are naturally slim, it's not nice to read something saying that my size shouldn't be aspired for and that it's not attractive.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry if it came across as saying a thigh is not natural, or cam across horribly. I am sure you realise I did not intend this. I completely believe every girl is beautiful in a different way, I'm just trying to emphasise that real beauty comes from within. I'm sorry if I offended you, some people are naturally slim, some aren't.
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